Mothers Day, from a momma in waiting

As Mother’s Day approach, I could feel my heart tugging in a sad direction. I thought for sure this was a Mother’s Day where I would know who our child is. I would have a picture, we would have a finality insight for our adoption. But alas, the timeline that I had hoped for, is not happening. Instead and thankfully, the perfect timeline is in motion. But then I look at my life and find myself incredibly thankful for all the different types of people that I have in my life whom Mother’s day affects.

Dear Birth Mothers-

What an incredible gift you have given to so many people. It might not have been the route that you were going to choose for yourself, but because of your selfless act, (no matter the reason) so many are completing their family. And although I do not know who my daughter’s birth mother is, or the birth mother of my niece I am incredibly thankful for both. You are completing our families. Because of your desire to not do something to your child other than to give birth, you are allowing us to be parents and allowed my sisters family to be complete. I hope and pray you can feel the thankfulness that we have for you on Mother’s Day.

Dear Momma’s in waiting-

Happy Mother’s Day! If you are a momma in waiting through adoption, this is probably something that you did not think you would hear. But from personal experience, I know that your heart is already being knit (just as mine is) with your child, even if you do not know that child yet. I know first hand the longing that you feel, and how hard this day can be. I pray that you can see light at the end of the tunnel and the joy that will abound from the hard work.

Happy Mother’s Day to all my friends (and there are many of you) that are expecting or have given birth this year-

 If I were to count the numbers on my fingers and toes, I would need more hands and feet than I have. I am incredibly excited for each one of you. What a gift and a joy you have been given. I pray that you cherish it.

To my Friends who long to be a mom-

This is a hard place to be in, because just like me, the time is not here yet. I can’t give you any answers as to why, but know in my heart that it is all part of a greater plan. God places desires on our hearts for a reason and uses the time in between for molding and shaping, to prepare us. I pray that you can find a reason to celebrate.

Dear Friends who do not have a momma to celebrate with in the flesh-

This is an especially hard holiday. I know that I have had people, I would love to be able to celebrate with that have gone on from this year. But I pray that you are able to find ways to celebrate those that you would have celebrated with in the flesh. This is not a day for mourning but a day to rejoice in the gift that you were given in a mom even if it were for a short time. Please do not say that you hate this day, Rejoice in the fact that you have someone you would want to celebrate.

To all my mom’s out there-

Thank you for allowing me to be special in your life. As I reflect on just how many of you I have in my life I am so thankful for each one of you. I think of just how lucky I am to have so many that are willing to go above and beyond and let me in your families. You might have not given birth to me, but you love me like I was one of your own. Happy Mother’s Day to you.

And to my mom-

Happy Mother’s Day. Thanks for choosing the gift of life and giving birth to me. I look forward to celebrating with you when you come in a couple of weeks.

If you are a mom, have a mom, had a mom, are a mom in waiting, are a mom to a furry friend and fit any mom category, Happy Mother’s Day! I hope that you have a time of celebrating

And to my little girl-
I can't wait to have you home. As the days drag on, my heart longs and aches for you to be here. We are praying for you as your Aunties take care of you and prepare you for us. You have a rather large group of folks just waiting to hug you. 

Love, Jennifer